Monday, 25 November 2019

How do we mentor our children?

http://ahimsa.redelephantfoundation.org/2019/11/how-do-you-mentor-your-child.html


“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.” - Benjamin Franklin.

In today's rat race where everyone is trying to climb up the ladder and out shine the other encouraging and nurturing your child’s creativity seems more a privilege than it being every parent’s responsibility. As a parent you have an important role to play in your child’s life.
Children observe and they observe you.What do you do for fun or to unwind, will have an immediate impact on how your child associates to the same kind of outlet.
And yes, you can hear yourself say ‘Let’s all begin to watch less T.V’ or ‘Let’s get our noses out of our mobiles.’
For your child keep the focus on fun, which means to tolerate a little mess and DON'T micromanage projects.
Be creative yourself, find ways in which to express your own creativity with solo projects just for you! Find new ways in indulging your creative side. Allow your child to watch you enjoy your alone creative time. This can be combined with collaborative projects for the whole family or done just with your child.
Set aside some time for yourself and your child on a regular basis to engage in a creative activity and enjoy the act and feeling of letting go to find yourself immersed in a creative adventure. 

When speaking to our children, we need to start to listen to them and try to understand them rather listen to them to reply.
Children are truly marvelous beings, if you come to think about it, imagine being made to live in a world that was never made for you, in size, in thought or in what interests you. Our children adapt to us adults in a miraculously harmonious ways even though we have created our world for ourselves and not for our children, do they criticize us or complain about it day in and day out?  I am quite certain that any adult today would find it impossible to live in a world that is made for children.

Tuesday, 5 November 2019

Questions and answers



 We as parents have probably heard this enough times, but I can tell you that we always need a reminder that each child is a unique individual that bring their own perspectives and experiences to any situation or social interaction.So, no two children can develop at the same rate/time, and most importantly cannot at any given time be compared.
As we encourage their individuality we are slowly enabling the child to apply their new findings to new situations while they are enjoying the process - this my parents is when lateral thinking happens, where they start making connections. 
With this, we make learning simple and almost like a normal feature in their brain. As they play and explore, they learn and make connections.
Even with adults, we learn most during the process of observation and looking for answers on our own rather than just being given a quick answer to our question. This cuts out several processes in the brain and does not allow growth, curiosity or stir a passion for knowledge acquisition.
As we are seeking for our answers, we get engaged with the subject at hand and with the process and soon become less interested in the final result because we are learning so many different things on the way. When we finally get our answer, we have learnt several other things from several other fields on that journey.