Monday, 25 November 2019

How do we mentor our children?

“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.” - Benjamin Franklin.

In today's rat race where everyone is trying to climb up the ladder and out shine the other encouraging and nurturing your child’s creativity seems more a privilege than it being every parent’s responsibility. As a parent you have an important role to play in your child’s life.
Children observe and they observe you.What do you do for fun or to unwind, will have an immediate impact on how your child associates to the same kind of outlet.
And yes, you can hear yourself say ‘Let’s all begin to watch less T.V’ or ‘Let’s get our noses out of our mobiles.’
For your child keep the focus on fun, which means to tolerate a little mess and DON'T micromanage projects.
Be creative yourself, find ways in which to express your own creativity with solo projects just for you! Find new ways in indulging your creative side. Allow your child to watch you enjoy your alone creative time. This can be combined with collaborative projects for the whole family or done just with your child.
Set aside some time for yourself and your child on a regular basis to engage in a creative activity and enjoy the act and feeling of letting go to find yourself immersed in a creative adventure. 

When speaking to our children, we need to start to listen to them and try to understand them rather listen to them to reply.
Children are truly marvelous beings, if you come to think about it, imagine being made to live in a world that was never made for you, in size, in thought or in what interests you. Our children adapt to us adults in a miraculously harmonious ways even though we have created our world for ourselves and not for our children, do they criticize us or complain about it day in and day out?  I am quite certain that any adult today would find it impossible to live in a world that is made for children.

Tuesday, 5 November 2019

Questions and answers

 We as parents have probably heard this enough times, but I can tell you that we always need a reminder that each child is a unique individual that bring their own perspectives and experiences to any situation or social interaction.So, no two children can develop at the same rate/time, and most importantly cannot at any given time be compared.
As we encourage their individuality we are slowly enabling the child to apply their new findings to new situations while they are enjoying the process - this my parents is when lateral thinking happens, where they start making connections. 
With this, we make learning simple and almost like a normal feature in their brain. As they play and explore, they learn and make connections.
Even with adults, we learn most during the process of observation and looking for answers on our own rather than just being given a quick answer to our question. This cuts out several processes in the brain and does not allow growth, curiosity or stir a passion for knowledge acquisition.
As we are seeking for our answers, we get engaged with the subject at hand and with the process and soon become less interested in the final result because we are learning so many different things on the way. When we finally get our answer, we have learnt several other things from several other fields on that journey.

Tuesday, 29 October 2019


A subject that has preoccupied for more than half my life and I have finally found a way to putty thoughts in words..

How can some people create happiness when some others cannot..?

Creating happiness starts with our parents. If our parents are individuals who know how to create happiness either for themselves or for their family or community; their children immediately learn how to create happiness their own or others. And if they do not know how to, their children may not know as well. This is then transmitted through generations until one person can break this cycle. We need to practise the art of being happy.
You can make a list of things, places, people, that instantly bring you to a space of calm. To make you breathe slowly and bring a smile to your face.
Things that work for me:
- Being in nature
- Seeing my child smile
- Cuddles from puppies or kittens
- Clean sheets
- Stationary

It's in the simplest of things that can bring one great happiness. Insight comes through calm reflection. Reflect on things that make you feel, light , calm and refreshed.

Sunday, 27 October 2019

How can we be more implied in our children’s creativity?

As a parent or caregiver, helping your child with creative activities is a great way to find relief from the mundane routine of everyday life. 

Art is a powerful tool for self expression. As we express ourselves we can try to be more communicative and attentive to our children and their needs. By just unwinding we can promote sentiments such as empathy, appreciation, sharing, expression of each others individuality and even develop a way to give and receive feedback. This in turn will allow us to reflect on ourselves and have our little ones do the same.

Creative projects like a mural at home, a puzzle, or making simple decorations for occasions and festivals, will allow their minds to conceptualize an idea, which is the beginning of many wonderful qualities like confidence and perseverance as they see their ideas coming to form and then to completion. This will allow their minds and skills to grow along with fueling their imagination to take more challenging endeavors in the future. All in all you will have the makings of a child that will be growing up to be a  well rounded individual.
In our modern world we are constantly bombarded with sounds and images more than our brain can process in a day! These saturations on the senses can cause a decline in a young child’s imagination and visual perception of the understanding of their immediate environment.

Since digital technology is here to stay, we should try more to bring it into our lives as a tool to enhance our conceptualizing skills and make an attempt to exploit it in aid of ours and children's innovative thinking.

Children in our ever growing and competitive world need a balance of both working individually and collaboratively to engage in the creative process that will ensure them varied perspective.

Saturday, 26 October 2019

What do creative activities do for your children and you?

What do creative activities do for your children and you?

How often do we as adults challenge ourselves? How often do we use our potential to the fullest?

I’m sure most have us are thinking of the last time we have done something challenging, and thinking to ourselves how long ago that was. Our children on the other hand do this everyday! 

They are pushing their boundaries and trying new things without the fear of failure. The fear  of something we pick through many experiences on this journey we call life. And to be honest, we are desperately trying to unlearn it as we become parents or start a new job or when we are confronted with any kind of change.

Creativity is a term used so loosely these days, sometimes I wonder if people really believe what they are saying. Creativity is a large umbrella that covers, problem solving skills, out of the box thinking, experimenting and most importantly dealing with ambiguity. 

Of course, these are all concepts that can be broken down to various levels. Coming to our children and how we can help them channelize their energy into having fun with something new and when they play it is a sure way that they are learning.

Art is such a powerful tool for self expression. Give your child some paints, some paper and space, you will see a little artist at work busy making wonderful works of art. The mess is part of the exploratory process, this is how a child comes to explore and understand their surroundings, and giving them paints, crayons, glue and paper are the tools allowing them to express and explore themselves their capacities and their surroundings.

This exploratory journey will give rise to so many areas that they have not connected with either socially or environmentally speaking. This is critical to their learning spurts and their general well being, gone are the times where children were to be seen and not heard, and slowly the times are changing from the child dictatorship to a more balanced parenting, where both parent and child have a mutual respect for each other.

The real question to begin and continue this journey of exploration is: Can we give them a safe space to do so?